EQ Dumb People

Ever wonder why some people are just not 'nice'?

Most probably it's because they have low EQ - emotional intelligence.

Take Shara: she's beautiful and sexy, but most people around her hate her. Or take Dan, he's a car, money and good looking, but people don't want to be around him.

So, what do they have in common? They lack 'social awareness'. They're numb to the feelings of others. For them, what is the most important thing in their whole universe is their opinion. They want to say things in a 'don't-care-about-how-you-feel' attitude. They simply lack empathy. People like these are pregnant with distrust with others and self-doubt.

Dalai Lama once said, “It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion toward others. If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others.”

Compassion, empathy and trust with others are, therefore, rooted in our self acceptance.  Sarcasm towards others is an obvious sign of hidden self-hate.

On the other hand, a person with high level of EQ gives out ambience of comfort, trust and are generous with their words. “Thoughtless words can wound as deeply as any sword, but wisely spoken words can heal.” ~Proverbs 12:18

Love Lost in the Sea

Everyone had a crush on her. And everyone in the group was vocal and showy about their interest in her, except me. I liked her and I liked her very much, but i was timid to even glance at her.

One day, she commissioned a friend to summon me in secret place. When I got there, she asked me if I had a special feeling for her. Suddenly, I felt my face flooded with blood, my voice quivered as I strongly denied it. "No! and who told you that? I'll punch him on the nose!"

When I came home, I told my brothers and my cousins about it. To my surprise, they all blamed and scolded me, telling me I was so stupid. They said that was it! I should have revealed my feelings even without asking. It's only then that I realized how stupid I really was, and I lost my chance.

After that event, she and her family went for a vacation to another island. They stayed there for the whole summer. And everyone in the group,specially I, was eager for her return. But, she did not come home anymore... Their ship sank. She was among the hundreds of missing passengers.

That was more than 25 years ago but the image of her sweet little face would still float in my memory…

The Truth and the Moon

“The Moon is like the truth.
It may appear in half, quarter or full,
but it's still the moon...”

 

Two Powerful Traits

Almost every day I met people with different colors, nationalities, life status, and beliefs. And the most difficult people I encountered are racists, who think others are either animals or prostitutes; and fundamentalists who think they own the gate of Heaven because they memorize the verses from their sacred books.

They may not kill you with guns, bombs or samurais, but in their holy minds you're already judged and doomed to Hell. And dare not speak about morals, spirituality, truth and the universe; for they are the only minority who got all the answers. They call us the unbelievers, infidels, ungodly.

A few months back in Italy,  I extended my hand to an old lady on the other table. Two things she asked me, if I were a business competitor and if I were not a member of their church. I answered ‘yes’ to both questions indirectly, but finding for some common grounds.

After a week, she invited me to their common apartment to fix her computer and meet others including their Nigerian pastor. They wanted to talk about our differences, but I managed to talk about kindness and good in other people.

A few months have past, my friends in Rome told me, they’re still looking for me. They did not want to convert me anymore; they just wanted my company. I never gave any material things to these people, in fact, it’s the other way around.

I believe if there’s a belief more superior than anything else, it’s the belief in the power of kindness and openness… Such are two powerful traits…

Moon’s Power

 

The moon has the unique power to illuminate even the darkest parts in our hearts…