We got awkwardly petrified when she suddenly came and burst “Why are you crying?! You look stupid!” referring to our friend who happened to be her daughter. Our friend was actually sharing her problems among us when her mother came by to shoot that unforgettable scene.
On my part, I did not expect it from a mother. Gina (not her real name) was in so much pain. And the mother was furious to know that her daughter cried in front of us. I did not really know her other reason for doing that, if there is any, but one thing is clear: she did want to see her cry.
Boys don't cry
Most ‘boys’ would prefer to shed blood rather than tears. Tears are sometimes more dreadful than blood. For most of them, crying is a sign of weakness and cowardice.
In the same vein, some people are in panic once they see their friends crying. They are at a loss to look for words to stop the scene, hoping that those feelings would go away. But the reality is, the more we suppress it, the deeper its fang would go.
Pets are not allowed
Crying does not make any person less of a human being. Emotional crying is actually more human than we thought of. According to science, animals are not capable of crying the way humans do.¹ They may shed some tears, but they don’t go into such emotional suffering the way human beings do which leads to crying.
Crying is not a sign of cowardice in the part of men, either. In fact, it’s the other way around. What prevents these men from crying? Fear. It’s the fear of being branded as gay or weak.
Being there...
Tears don’t only clean and lubricate our eyes; it takes the toxins of pain out of our body; It cleanses the soul.
When a friend came and cried in front of me, I asked her what she wanted me to do, she replied: “Just be there…”
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