For more than twenty-five years, Coach John's life has evolved around helping people, young and old, in finding their ways through life. He designed modules and trained speakers. He travelled extensively giving talks, seminars, retreats and personal life coaching. This blog speaks his mind, a product of his love for life.

Hardwired

 
HardwiredHardwired relationships are difficult to break, if not impossible. Hardwired relationships are best born out in two ways: first, in happy and memorable moments; second,  in difficult and even in death defying situations.
Hardwiring happens when two people spend HONEST time together for a longer period of time.

I say honest.

Our relationship's nerve endings are open for connection only when we're honest to ourselves. Fear, pretentions and inhibitions close these circuits which makes the other nerve ending impossible to connect.  It's like handshaking with a clenched fist.


Some young people fell into a dangerous trap: after some times of dating, they engaged right away in sex. The result is, these people are forced to connect because of sex: a treacherous sense of connection.  They thought sex would make their relationship stronger. But no, sex is the result of hardwired relationships, not the other way around. I've seen several relationships like these fell into pieces.

Hardwiring thrives best in
-dating
-spending time with friends and family of each party
-solving problems
-traveling
-taking care of each other during sickness
-constant communication
-fighting against the world
-praying together... nothing beats this.

A hardwired relationship is resistant to emotional fluctuations.
A hardwired relationship is resistant to storms.
A hardwired relationship is resistant to voltage failure due to distance.
A hardwired relationship is resistant to rust...
No, not even death could split it apart...

This is the secret of long engagement...


 
Father,
Thank You for binding us together
Through the love and sacrifice of Your Son
We may spend more time and effort
To make our bonds stronger,
In Jesus’ Name.
Amen.
photo: henrygrey @ flickr | by john b. bejo

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