There is only one certain thing about being a hero: rejection. In fact, heroes have most rejections in life. That's what makes them thick, genuine and profound. Nobody wants to be rejected. That's for sure. But why do we fear rejection so much?
My mother, brother and sister celebrated their birthday together, Dec. 19. It was a grand day for the family. Friends and relatives came. We're 7 in the family. Everybody received gifts, even my brothers and sister who were not celebrating their birthdays... except me. That's 25 years ago but the scene and the look in the eyes of the people during that day are still fresh in my mind.
It was the day when I decided I was different.
It was the day when I told myself, "I will not allow these people to hurt me anymore."
It was the day when I stopped begging for attention.
It was the day when I began to stop being somebody else.
We fear rejection because we are afraid of change.
We fear rejection because we're afraid of being ejected from our comfort zone.
We fear rejection because we’re afraid to find out we’re different.
Remember your first major rejection: your mother had to eject you out into this world. Rejection is a precursor to a re-birth. It was painful not only for you, but more so for your mother.
Rejection is not about you, it's about the process of changing you. The world does not hate you. It's the universe, it’s forces and its creatures conniving in giving birth to a new you...
Believe me, it's nothing personal...
Father,
When we feel rejected
Remind us how Your Son
Was rejected in spite of His wonderful personality,
Remind us that what matters most
Is that You love us… unconditionally…
In Jesus’ Name.
Amen.
When we feel rejected
Remind us how Your Son
Was rejected in spite of His wonderful personality,
Remind us that what matters most
Is that You love us… unconditionally…
In Jesus’ Name.
Amen.
I designed a game called Rejection Therapy back in 2009 to encourage myself to get out of my comfort zone more. It was amazingly effective and enlightening (for as long as I did it).
ReplyDeleteIf anyone wants to try it, it's here: http://rejectiontherapy.com
Hi Rink,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the added info. It's an honest and effective way of looking rejection in a positive way. I'll play the game :)
Have fun with it :)
ReplyDeleteRejection helps us to become a better person. We need to face the truth and think positive. At the beginning, it will be painful and hard but if you will try to open your heart for the changes, everything will be fine. Actually, i feel rejected when i was young. I keep on crying because i always feel that my parent's love is not equal. When i met my boyfriend, which is my husband now. He keeps on telling me that it is equal and the reason why i feel that it is not equal is because i am the one who is making the boundaries. It is hard for me to accept what he said but i tried my best. Now, i am so happy because i realize the love of my family. I love them too. Well, i still sit on my mother's lap, kiss and hug her. :) I always have a wonderful talk with my tatang. My sisters and Brother always supports me. We promise that the four of us will always love each other and we will never fight about money matters. Well, we all have bad attitudes and we believe that patient is the key for any problems in the future. My parent's always tells us that if the time comes that they will need to say goodbye to the world, we should continue to love each other and do not fight. Actually, i joined thank you day:
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Love this post Sir John :)
Hi Paige, I really love your down-to-earth, honest insight and sharing. While reading your comment, I wanted to ask some more, but when I look inside, I know I have found the answers.
ReplyDeleteA friend asked me 'why did some people do such thing to you?" I said, I could not really say. What I know is that what I've gone through was a privilege. Only a few have been given the opportunity of such kind of torment and survived to tell the beauty of change and acceptance.
You're right. Those experiences enable us to love deeper and be grateful for the people who never left us when everybody did. They all deserve a 'Thank You Day." :)
Thank you...