When To Say Goodbye

One of the surprising but truthful lines my mentor in marriage counseling told us was: "Not all marriages should be saved."

To put it in a more general way, we say:
not all relationships: marriage, friendship and even family bond should be saved.

Saying goodbye is oftentimes the hardest thing to say. It takes so much energy and strength to endure the pain of separation.  But, it's doable, and in some instances NECESSARY.

I said my first goodbye  with the girl I loved 20 years ago. It was one of the hardest but necessary decisions I've ever made.  Relationship should make each individual a better person. In our case, our relationship was already hurting both of us.

Any relationship which forces us to become what we are not is a deceit.
Any relationship which prevents us from becoming a better person is selfish.
Any relationship which prevents us from encountering God drags us to hell.

A person who stays in a destructive relationship has little self-respect. It’s a cycle masochists love to be in.

“Don’t throw  your pearls to the  pigs, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and attack you.”~ Mat 7:6

 

Father,
Thank You for the gift of self respect.
Help us keep it intact and precious the way you intend it to be.
Help us find the right person and stay.
But give us the courage to say goodbye
When we need to,
In Jesus’ Name.
Amen.

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