I talked to a young man the other day. He shared and justified his behavior against other people. He said he was provoked and therefore lashed them out with his powerful, bone-deep maledictions.
I asked him if he was happy because he hurt other people. The answer was delayed, long and confused. I asked him again, ‘what is the harder thing to do, to hurt people or to make them feel good about themselves?”
Hurting others is easy: anyone can do that; dogs, bullies, terrorists, psychopaths, losers can do that. But to inspire people to feel good about themselves, the people around them, the world and life, you need more than muscles and a lashing tongue.
M. Scott Peck says, “the enemy of love is not hatred, it' is laziness.” To hurt others is easy. So, lazy people tend to hurt other people because they are lazy to process situations. Bad parents are actually lazy parents, they want easy solutions and therefore don’t want to impose discipline.
To love needs energy, thinking and action. To truly love needs a higher amount of maturity, for love is a decision and only mature people can make loving decisions….
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